Nurture Her Nature

How to Help Children Handle Grief from the Loss of a Loved One

By Alex Robbins

How children handle the loss of a loved one depends on the child’s age and her relationship with the deceased individual. The support she receives also plays a big part in how she handles the loss. Losing a loved one can have a significant impact on children, and they need an adult’s guidance. If you’re an adult helping a child deal with the grief of losing a loved one, there are things you can do to help her understand what’s happening and find a way to move forward.  (more…)

A Pokemon Birthday Party

My little girl is not so little any more. Today she is turning eight years old. While I absolutely hate it, I also love it. When I think of my baby, I picture this:

But then she wakes up and starts talking, and I can only see this:Sigh. They do grow up fast.




This year, she wanted a Pokemon party. With a just a little preparation and lots of good friends and family, we had a pretty good time! I had to brush up on my Poke-speak first though, so I rewatched the first episode. If you’re considering a Pokemon-themed party, I suggest you do the same.

This gave me a great idea for the cake — or in this case, cakes. There are seemingly thousands of Pokemon, but one common (and simply designed) object is the Poke Ball. And hey, it’s round! So Poke Ball became the central design. If you watched the episode, you know that a wanna-be Pokemon master starts off her journey by choosing one of three Pokemon: Charmander, Bulbasaur, and Squirtle. So, I made three cakes and cut out the center of each. I stashed a Charmander in one, Bulbasaur in another, and Squirtle in the third, then covered them back up with the cut-out cake. (This was inspired by both the show and Ali’s super fabulous idea of hiding Shopkins in Riley’s birthday cake.) We iced them up to look like Poke Balls, and then Story had to choose one to begin her journey to become a Pokemon master. She dug it out with a spoon. Surprisingly, she chose the cake with Charmander, the one she wanted. Happy birthday to her!

Additional treats were pizza and a fruit tray, each designed to look like a Poke Ball (well, the pizza was only a partial success; I forgot the olives for the black band). Of course, we had red and white balloons, as well. It was a low-key, low-pressure, low-effort party, but I consider it a success!

 

Learning About Loss

The last few weeks, I have felt like I haven’t had a whole lot to report. The girls and I have been easily continuing through our dance of everyday normalcy. Riley attended her first field trip, Maddie recorded a stellar rock rendition of Itsy Bitsy Spider, and we had a fun-filled sleepover with Story at the lake house. It’s all been good and very steady. This week, however, we experienced a first together. Our first loss of a family pet. (more…)

The First Sleepover

This past weekend, Story had her first sleepover. I know, crazy, right? She even said, “I am seven years old! How can this be my first sleepover ever?!” To better understand, let me define sleepover: staying the night with a nonrelative and without Mom, with the full intention of doing nothing but having fun. Mind you, Story has plenty of experience sleeping at others’ houses, both with and without me. But this was different. She was going to stay the whole night with Ali, Riley, and Maddie — without me. (Yes, I’m still categorizing this as a sleepover even though Story refers to Riley and Maddie as her stepsisters.)

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