This January, I was excited to run across a single mom blog on Facebook that touted positivity. In fact, the tag line underneath her blog name is “This is a positive place for single moms to heal, connect, and move on.” Finally a single mom blog founded in the name of positivity! Saying I was excited might be an understatement, so I reached out to the owner of this blog and learned she is every bit as lovely and positive as her blog.
Iman is a 26-year-old single mother of one. Her son is 3, turning 4 in April. Aside from blogging at Single Mom What A Life and raising her son, she is a full-time student. Her single mom journey included overcoming a domestic violence situation, which she highlights beautifully on her blog. She has a wonderful positive approach to life and single parenting, which she believes has grown her into a much stronger person.
What is your favorite part of being a single mom?
Not having to get approval on a rule or having to compromise on the rules. I have very strong convictions on how I want my son raised, and I do not like the idea of sharing that responsibility.
What is your funniest kid story that still keeps you laughing?
Trying to get my son walking. He is texture sensitive, so when I would go to put his feet on the floor, he would pull his legs up. It was the cutest thing I have ever seen. He took his first steps at a mall on the concrete floors.
What is your funniest mom mistake?
I gave my son spoiled milk. LOL His face when he took a sip was priceless, but I paid for it. He would not drink out of a straw cup for over a year. (The milk went bad very fast. I had opened it the day before, I contacted the company.)
What is your greatest struggle as a single mom?
This is a good question. I am sure it is different for every mom, but for me, I struggle to not overcompensate. The fear of my son being left behind is stressful. Parents in general want their children to be afforded the same peace of mind as other children. As a single mother, the reality is my son will be treated and seen differently from children in a two-parent home. I don’t want my son to think he cannot have the best, do the best, or be his best because he does not have a father around.
What is your greatest mom accomplishment?
I am set to graduate college this spring. Of all the things I have done, I feel this will have the largest impact. I want my son to go to college. I do not believe in “do as I say not as I do,” so I got busy. He has seen me go through this, and my hopes are when he is older he realizes if he puts his mind to doing anything he can achieve it.
Where do you find alone time?
Usually I take an hour after my son has gone to bed (if he goes to bed on time) and just listen to music. It is the only time in my day when everything slows down.
What advice would you have for fellow new single moms?
Let go of guilt is always my #1 advice. So many single mothers out of guilt feel shameful, angry, like they need to find a second parent, and so many other negative emotions. There is nothing wrong with being a single parent. We are strong, resourceful, independent, committed, and loving, and that is what we give our children. Don’t let guilt get in the way of all the positive things you have to give.
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